Sexy talk

Yesterday's Oprah (shut up, you're just jealous) was one of those "your best life" episodes and the topic was sex. In all fairness, I didn't see the whole show (but I did read about it later on-line), but I do have a bit of a problem with the approach. The basic theme was that men want it and ladies, not so much. And, ladies, you need to step up to the plate.

I have a couple of issues with this. The first is the assumption that men always want sex and women are the ones doing the pushing away. Assuming that it's natural and part of life, then we should both have desires. Of course, everyone has different levels of interest, sometimes the boy will have a higher drive and sometimes it'll be the girl. So either Oprah has found a bunch of women who just aren't that interested in sex, which is certainly possible, or maybe there are other factors. Like, maybe women have to deal with more, like housework, kids, etc. Just saying. (or, maybe, she says in a very tiny voice, he's just not very good at it.)

But I do think there are women who have the drive and the man is less interested. In some ways, this is more of a social issues, as the assumption is that, if the woman wants sex, it shouldn't be a problem. And, sorry Oprah, you dropped the ball on that issue.

Another issue I have is the advice that the woman has to be the one to step it up. If the man wants more sex than he is getting, well, ladies, what are you going to do about it? Clearly, it is your issue, not his. What if the woman is perfectly happy with the amount of sex she is getting? Why does she have to alter her behavior? And what about a few lessons for the boys, so that they could maybe make it worth her while?

The follow-up question is, what to do if drives are different? I mean, I hate housework, so we hired someone to clean the house. I'm just saying.